We all want other people to like us and think well of us. But when we depend on the praise, admiration, or appreciation of others for our sense of self-worth, we become trapped in an exhausting and debilitating cycle of people pleasing relationships where we always give and rarely receive. Thankfully, the solution to the people pleaser’s “problem” isn’t to fundamentally change who you are - it’s to fundamentally change where you find your worth. In The People Pleaser’s Guide to Loving Others Without Losing Yourself, Dr. Mike Bechtle shows you how to stop letting your fears of rejection, criticism, invisibility, or inadequacy drive your actions and start rebuilding your sense of self-worth from the inside out. When you do, you’ll discover that what you once thought of as a struggle is one of your greatest strengths.
In Afraid of the Light by Cynthia Ruchti, clinical psychologist Camille Brooks isn’t put off by the lifestyle of her hoarder clients and the distress of their families. She lost her mother to this crippling anxiety disorder - so she’ll go a long way to help others avoid the same pain. Despite Camille’s expertise, her growing audience for her Let In The Light podcast and the recognition she’s gaining for her creative coaching methods, she’s not prepared for the pushback. A client who looks uncannily like her mom catches her off guard and raises long-dormant issues. And the revelation that Camille has her own hoarding problem sends her spinning. With the help of a cadre of unexpected friends, an enigma of a man who refuses to be discouraged, and the God who created and loves her, can she face her fears, pull back the curtains, and let the light into her own life?
Do you ever feel the pressure to hide your struggles in order to look like a “good Christian”? The truth is, we all face battles and hurts in our lives. Scripture is full of God-fearing men and women who tried to cover up their problems. For Mary and Martha, the death of their brother Lazarus was the ultimate devastation. They put his body in a dark place and rolled a stone in front of it. But God knew where they buried their pain, and He knows where you bury yours too. In Half The Battle, Jon Chasteen explores Old and New Testament examples of people whom God invited to begin the healing process by confronting their secret pain. God wants to visit the place of your pain, redeem your past, and set you free - will you let Him?
You’ve lost someone you love. Or you’re on the brink of losing your marriage… your dreams… your health. Or perhaps the trauma of your past pursues you into the present. Your life is going to change. Which way it goes won’t be decided by your loss but by the choices you make. At the crossroads of grief, one road will lead to hope and healing. The other, to more hurt. Hope When Your Heart is Breaking is an honest look at both roads, and how your greatest loss can lead to your greatest gain. Author Ron Hutchcraft writes from the deep well of his own devastating loss and grief, pointing you to practical steps that lead to peace and wholeness. This book is a pathway to hope - a roadmap through the pain and grief and loss. Discover new strength through a new closeness to others and to God. Make the decisions that lead to comfort, growth, and life.
Do you need a breakthrough? Are you stuck fighting the same battles with kids who seem totally unmotivated by change? The truth is, every child is motivated, you just need to learn how to unlock your child’s unique heart. In Start With The Heart, you’ll learn practical, manageable strategies for motivating your kids toward healthy life habits, including how to address beliefs that affect behavior, respond to consistent complaining, increase resiliency and decrease fear of hard work, listen longer and teach your kids to know themselves, and create change that lasts long-term. Plus, Dr. Kathy Koch will teach you what really irritates kids (they’ve told her), and how to identify and avoid actions that break down trust. Move your kids from “I can’t” to “I can, I will, I did”.
Cross Reference Library is located at 209 East 15th Street in Scottsbluff, NE,
and is open Monday through Friday from 9:00am-5:00pm.